FOUR STAGES OF CHANGE
1. Unconscious incompetence: You are willing to experiment with an idea, a behavior, or an activity even though you know little about it and are not sure what is expected. Your attempts at the new way of thinking or behaving are not skilled and that is OK because you are just trying out something new without any expectations of how you will do.
2. Conscious incompetence: It's still a new idea, behavior or activity, but now you have a model of how you want to perform and you have goals for yourself. You just aren't skilled at it yet. It FEELS awkward!
3. Conscious competence: You're following your model and gaining in skill, but you are still conscious about what you're doing or thinking. Sometimes it still FEELS awkward.
4. Unconscious competence: You've got it! You know you've got it because it's a habit and most times you don't even have to think to behave the way you have been practicing. It FEELS comfortable.
1. Unconscious incompetence: You are willing to experiment with an idea, a behavior, or an activity even though you know little about it and are not sure what is expected. Your attempts at the new way of thinking or behaving are not skilled and that is OK because you are just trying out something new without any expectations of how you will do.
2. Conscious incompetence: It's still a new idea, behavior or activity, but now you have a model of how you want to perform and you have goals for yourself. You just aren't skilled at it yet. It FEELS awkward!
3. Conscious competence: You're following your model and gaining in skill, but you are still conscious about what you're doing or thinking. Sometimes it still FEELS awkward.
4. Unconscious competence: You've got it! You know you've got it because it's a habit and most times you don't even have to think to behave the way you have been practicing. It FEELS comfortable.
Once you have established a new habit you can look to these qualities as further confirmation that it is a habit with lasting potential:
1. Do you fully believe the change is healthy for you? Too often a change is made because someone else tells you it would be good for you, but you may not be really convinced. If you do not believe in the merits of the change it is unlikely to be lasting.
2. A positive change creates inner feelings of anticipation, peace, joy, excitement, confidence or other positive emotions.
3. The feeling of courage is present when acting upon your change.
4. You believe the action associated with your change is meaningful for your life and fits your value system.
5. The action associated with your change requires you to develop a positive aspect of yourself.
6. Your change is a choice made in service of what you desire for your life.
May you give yourself the gift of lasting change, health and well-being.
1. Do you fully believe the change is healthy for you? Too often a change is made because someone else tells you it would be good for you, but you may not be really convinced. If you do not believe in the merits of the change it is unlikely to be lasting.
2. A positive change creates inner feelings of anticipation, peace, joy, excitement, confidence or other positive emotions.
3. The feeling of courage is present when acting upon your change.
4. You believe the action associated with your change is meaningful for your life and fits your value system.
5. The action associated with your change requires you to develop a positive aspect of yourself.
6. Your change is a choice made in service of what you desire for your life.
May you give yourself the gift of lasting change, health and well-being.